How To Do An Intervention?

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How To Do An Intervention?

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Many of you are wondering how to do an intervention.

We have laid it out in a simple 3 step process for you.

Phase 1: Contact a professional interventionist

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Research shows that most often families, employers, loved ones who attempt to persuade the person of concern to get help fail. Addiction casts a wide net. Those closest to the person of concern get trapped in that net, and the consequences can be considerable.

It has been proven that hiring a professional interventionist is significantly helpful in orchestrating a circle of love and compassion around the person of concern.

What is the success rate of an Intervention?

Whole Families Intervention & Services has proven successful in 99% of its interventions.

In order to be successful in your intervention, It is critical to establish ground rules for the intervention, such as:

  • No blaming
  • No shaming
  • No criticizing
  • No yelling

Rather, the language of the intervention needs to be one of compassion, empathy, kindness and love.

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The challenge is that, often, by the time families and friends commit to an intervention, they are emotionally, physically and financially spent. Anger, hurt and resentment can be pervasive among those caught in addiction’s web. Dealing with an addict’s lies, deceit, manipulation, secrets, broken promises can erode trust and thus, destroy relationships.

It takes much intention to put aside those grievances and come together as a united circle of love. It is this love and support that has proven most helpful in empowering a loved one to seek and find help.

Phase 2: Follow the Interventionist's lead in preparing for the intervention.

This may take several meetings with the group. We at Whole Families offer unlimited time to prepare for the intervention meeting.

Step 1: Choose your circle of support for your intervention

The people you choose to be in your intervention meeting are important. As the meeting is about helping your loved one seek and find treatment, each individual present must commit to the ground rules. If, for whatever reason, they aren’t capable of speaking with love and compassion, they need to recuse themselves from the process.people of support for intervention for drug addiciton

You want to choose those folks who love the person of concern and toward whom, your loved one has great affection. It is important that those in the intervention are cheerleaders for your loved one and someone your loved one respects.

Step 2: Sharing the family’s history with each other

A professional interventionist will seek to understand the history of your family and each member’s role in the family. At Whole Families Intervention & Services, we interview each member of the family to hear their perspective on the family unit and how they view their role in it. If friends, employers, teachers will be present in the intervention, we interview them, as well.

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Once we learn about the history of the family and each person’s role in it, we gather the family together to share what we’ve learned and ask the family to participate in the discussion. This can be a healing time for the family as members may be hearing information that they’ve never heard prior. Secrets that some members have been protecting are often shared in these discussions.

Step 3: Assessing your loved one’s condition

We at Whole Families will convene a follow-up meeting for your family to discuss your loved one’s physical health, mental health, and current situation. We aim to obtain as much information as possible about your loved one. What does she/he enjoy doing? Does she/he love being outdoors – hiking, surfing, gardening? Or does she/he prefer reading, crafts, art, music? Is he/she a professional or working class? Does he/she identify as LGBTQ, cis, transgender, non-binary?

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This information is important. Your professional interventionist will gather this information, along with financial perimeters, in order to select a few treatment options for your loved one. Your clear understanding of his/her circumstances and desires will help guide you and your family in determining where your loved one will receive treatment.

Step 4: Sharing the impact of your loved one’s choices on you and your family

Research shows that, on average, for every 1 addicted person, 25 people are affected. Addiction throws a wide net. Friends and family members can get caught the net. The disease affects each of us differently. Some of us get trapped into believing that if we just do _________ (fill in the blank) the person will get better. If we just say,” ____________” (fill in the blank), the person will choose to get help. In other words, we believe we have the capacity to save them from harming themselves further. Others of us feel angry, resentful, hurt by all the lies and broken promises, that we’ve stepped away. And some of us, swing back and forth from believing we can protect our loved one and giving up all hope.

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At Whole Families Intervention & Services, we believe that sharing how the disease of addiction has - and is – affecting each of you is indispensable in helping you heal as an individual and as a family. In sharing your own experience, others often relate to your feelings and thoughts. In that relating, everyone feels less alone, isolated and/or secretive. The disease has less power to manipulate and deceive a group who knows its secrets. This honest, transparent sharing is the first step toward healing the whole family.

Step 5: Your interventionist will educate you and your family about the disease of addiction

The concept of alcoholism and other drug dependency as being a disease first surfaced early in the 19th century. In 1956, the American Medical Association (AMA) declared alcoholism an illness, and in 1987, the AMA and other medical organizations officially termed addiction a disease.

The National Institute of Drug Abuse (NIDA) defines addiction as “a chronic, relapsing brain disease that is characterized by compulsive drug seeking and use, despite harmful consequences.” (National Institute on Drug Abuse. The Science of Drug Abuse and Addiction: The Basics)

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In the United States, 8–10% of people over the age of 12 are addicted to alcohol or other drugs. That’s approximately 22 million people. (Grant B, Saha TD, Ruan WJ. “Epidemiology of DSM-5 Drug Use Disorder Results From the National Epidemiologic Survey on Alcohol and Related Conditions–III.” The Journal of the American Medical Association, January 2016.)

While addiction is chronic, the good news is that it’s treatable. When a disease is chronic, it means it’s long-lasting. It can’t be cured, but it can be managed with treatment. Other chronic diseases are asthma, diabetes, and heart disease.

For many suffering with addiction, it can be important that treatment addresses any co-occurring neurological or psychological disorders that are known to drive your loved one to seek out mind-altering substances and behaviors in the first place.

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We at Whole Families Intervention & Services know about the disease addiction. Each of our interventionists have been sober for 30+ years. They’ve seen the physical, mental and emotional consequences of the disease. They’ve witnessed those suffering from alcoholism, drug addiction, and eating disorders destroy their lives and the lives around them. They’ve seen families torn apart, businesses lost, and been to too many funerals.

At the same time, we’ve seen individuals regain their health, mend relationships and create the life they dreamed of having.

Helping individuals and families find freedom out from under addiction is our passion. We know it is possible for every single person and family.

Step 6: Prepare what you want to say to your loved one in the intervention

Here is where you will spend time contemplating what you want to say to your loved one and how you want to say it. Using language of love and compassion, you will tell your loved one how much you care, how concerned you are, and how much you believe in them.

Your loved one has forgotten his/her inner strength. You will work to express your words with honesty, love and encouragement.

Your interventionist will guide and support you in your language. This is critical. Often, by this point in your loved one’s life, he/she may be feeling despair yet pretending that all is well. Your empathy and kindness has the power to break through this denial so that your loved one can hear your concern.old fashion type writer intervention services whole families interventions

Phase 3: The Meeting and After Care

At Whole Families Intervention & Services, we work meticulously to orchestrate the intervention with care and intention. You’ll be directed and guided on every aspect of the meeting. Your interventionist will be right there, convening the meeting, assuring that everyone is abiding by the ground rules.


Once your loved one agrees to go to the treatment facility that the family has chosen, we at Whole Families facilitate transportation to the treatment facility and oversee a safe and peaceful check-in.meetingattable, intervention process for addiction

During treatment, we are in touch, regularly, with the treatment facility, advocating for both your loved and your family. We are committed to supporting you and your family while your loved one remains in treatment, after graduation and into early recovery. Treatment is a first step. We believe that individuals and families flourish with recovery support in early sobriety. We offer recovery coaching to empower those in early recovery to develop sober life skills so that they can manifest the life they dream of having. We know it’s possible. We see miracles happen everyday.


How to Meet Fear and Anxiety with Freedom

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How to Meet Fear and Anxiety with Freedom

Wildfires. Hurricanes. The pandemic. Job loss. School uncertainty. Racial hatred. Foreign intelligence hacking. The list goes on.

According to a study published just this week, nearly a quarter of people in the United States are experiencing symptoms of depression, That's nearly three times the number before the COVID-19 pandemic began. These are anxious times no matter who we are and what we’ve experienced.

Anxiety is, perhaps, the most pervasive suffering in the world. Whether we’re chronically anxious and have some DSM diagnosis or whether we’re gripped periodically. Anxiety affects our health, our relationships, our work and our overall well-being.

Fear is embedded in our membranes. In order to survive millions of years ago, all beings had to be vigilant about danger. Rooted in all life forms is a mechanism that apprehends any sense of vulnerability or possible death. The brain senses that it needs to be in control at all times in order to keep the physical form in existence. It’s in our DNA that our nervous system is continually scanning for past unpleasant and future unpleasant sensations.

The challenge is that we get fixated on fear: what is going to go wrong or what is wrong right now. When we get hooked in this ongoing fear, we begin to identify ourselves with the fear. We become driven by fear. In fact, our very identity becomes defined by fear. When this happens, we suffer.

This fixation triggers the mind and body to respond in 1 of 3 ways – all of which create anxiety and stress. We freeze. We fight. Or we flee. When we react and find ourselves in one of these 3 states, we disconnect from our true nature and our innate creativity.

Aung San Suu Kyi, a pro-democracy activist, and leader of the National League for Democracy in Burma, who has spent time in prison for her activism, says

The only real prison is fear.

The only real freedom is freedom from fear.


The truth is that we create our own prisons by not opening up to the fear. Instead, we figure out ways not to feel the fear:

We speed up. We get busy. The to-do list spans pages.

We set out to prove ourselves. To achieve more.

We experience shame and in turn, blame others.

We build walls around us to protect ourselves, physically.

Internally, we build walls around the heart and contract the body/mind. We develop a permanent suit of armor, always on guard for what might happen next. This suit of armor creates our own prison, and many of us live here day in and day out. Especially now.

Just how do we free ourselves from our own prison of fear and anxiety?

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Here are a few tools that may prove helpful:

Noticing What’s Happening:

We begin simply by noticing what’s happening, what we’re feeling, what we’re thinking. In noticing, we give space to what is here, right now. If we recognize the feeling, the thought, the belief, we can name it, “Worrying. Projecting. Fearful.”

In naming what we observe, we become less identified with the feeling. It’s as if we are detached from the observation and simply noticing what’s happening right here, right now.

Welcome What’s Happening:

Once we can recognize what’s happening, we’re encouraged to give space to what’s right here. To breathe into the sensation and allow it to be there. We can even acknowledge the sensation, by silently saying, “Yes,” to whatever is right here. “I see you. I feel you. We’ve met before.”

Many practitioners encourage us to invite the feelings in for a cup of tea, as a way of welcoming the sensation. “Please come in. Sit down. How about a cup of tea with me?”

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What I am Believing?

When we’re able to pause long enough to notice and welcome what’s happening, we can then ask ourselves, “What am I believing in the moment?”

The beliefs may feel very real, but are they true?

We then may want to ask ourselves, “Who am I when I believe these beliefs?” Practitioners encourage us to put one hand on our heart and one hand on our belly as a gesture of attention and care to ourselves.

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We may ask ourselves, where do these beliefs lodge in my body? Are they constricting my breath? Do they make my heart beat faster? Is my belly tightening? Mindfulness practitioners have known for millennia that beliefs, thoughts and feelings lodge in the body. Science is catching up and proving them to have been correct all along.

Responding with Compassion

When we can determine where in the body the fear and fixation lie, we can then respond with lovingkindness and compassion. Buddhist teacher, Thich Nhat Hanh, encouraged his students to respond with, “There. There.” A gesture and acknowledgement of, “I know you suffer and I am here.”

When we can show up for ourselves with compassion and kindness, we allow space for what is happening right here, right now. We don’t need to argue with reality. We can accept what is with a sense of spaciousness and openness. We can relax and breathe into it, even welcome it for what it may teach us.

This spaciousness, in turn, becomes our freedom. In this moment, we can breathe in that spaciousness and know that no matter what, we don’t have to identify ourselves with fear. It is not who we are. Fear is a feeling that comes and goes. It doesn’t have to imprison us. We don’t have to live in ones we’ve erected for ourselves. We can breathe and let go.

There. There.



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Are You EnablingThe Addict In Your Life?

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We Help You Stop Enabling

Our professional interventionists work with your entire family to help stop enabling your loved one. Denial and enabling go hand-in-hand with addiction. Denial claims there is no disease. Enabling helps the addicted person maintains his/her behaviors.

Often, family members think they are helping their addicted loved one by not allowing them to experience the consequences of their addiction. This is called enabling. Many families and/or friends believe, that somehow if they protect their loved one from failing, their love and protection will be enough to save him/her.

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From our experience, just the opposite happens. As long as a family and/or friends enable their addicted loved one, he or she will never recover.

Some of these enabling behaviors are:

→Giving an addicted loved one a place to stay

→Funding rent and/or bills

→Stocking the pantry and refrigerator

→Calling in sick for their addicted loved one when he/she is too sick to go to work

→Driving the addicted person to buy drugs or alcohol or providing access to a vehicle for this purpose

We Help You Love Differently

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By the time families reach out to us as professional interventionists, they are often emotionally spent. They have experienced one too many broken promises, broken relationships, broken attempts to save their loved- one.

Our intervention services provide an opportunity for your whole family to come together and rally around each other. It provides a safe space to tell your addicted loved one that you want him or her to be able to live a happy, sober life. And it provides an opportunity for members to encourage each other on your personal journeys toward health and healing.

We Help You Set Boundaries and Love Each Other Differently

Throughout the U.S. our professional interventionists support your whole family in taking back control of your lives and focusing on your own health and wellbeing. It is not about loving your addicted loved one less. It’s about loving him or her differently. With boundaries and set expectations.

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The process may take a bit of time, but it is critical for the wellbeing of the entire family, including your loved one. We support you in maintaining these boundaries no matter what your loved ones decide about treatment. Once your loved one decides to accept treatment, we stay with your family throughout the program is completed, supporting you in your own recovery so that you don’t regress into old behaviors.

Your whole family will need to shift in order to support your addicted loved one and each of you on your own path toward healing. With Whole Families Intervention & Services, we are ready to set you and your family free of addiction.

Addiction Doesn’t Rest

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Dear Friends.

During this time of real danger and uncertainty, many of us are experiencing stress in mind, body, and spirit.
Mental health issues and substance use disease often accelerate in the midst of fear.

We at Whole Families are to support you and those you love. Whether you’re feeling isolated and/or lonely
or overwhelmed with pent-up energy in the house, we know that this is not an easy time for many folks.

We are offering all new clients a reduced rate for recovery coaching to support you and those whom you love
while we cope in these uncertain times.

Reach out and call us. We’re here. While we may not be hugging you with open arms, our hearts are open and
eager to hold yours.

Be well

Life Will Intervene

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Whether it’s medical, legal, or financial, life will intervene at some point in your loved one’s life. We are here to help you help your loved one find freedom.

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We offer this short quiz. It can assist you to determine if it is time to orchestrate a professional intervention.

Many of us wait to plan an intervention. The timing is never convenient.

Compassion doesn’t mean waiting. Calling us today can be one of the most important calls you make.

Our Professional Intervention services team with design an intervention based specifically on your family’s needs.

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7 Common Misconceptions About Addiction Interventions


7 Common Misconceptions About Addiction InterventionsWhen alcohol or drugs have taken over a loved one’s life, and they seem reluctant to face the facts about their addiction, sometimes we turn to an “intervention” to help them see that they need help. An intervention is when a group of loved ones — family, friends and concerned others — gather together to try and help the person see that they need treatment for their addiction.

For those who have never been involved in an intervention, the process may seem daunting and full of unanswered questions. Many people have only seen drug interventions on television or in movies, and are not sure what to expect at an actual intervention.

Here are seven common misconceptions about drug and alcohol interventions.

  1. You should wait until a person has hit rock bottom.“Rock bottom” is a often-used phrase when discussing addicts and addictive behavior. Many believe that an addict cannot bounce back into sobriety until they have hit this extremely low point. The reality is that rock bottom can be difficult to pinpoint. Rather than wait for this vaguely defined time, try to get help for your loved one before things progress that far.
  2. Sobriety is possible if an addict is strong enough.Addiction is a disease rooted in a number of causes. Chemical dependency takes over an addict’s brain and changes his or her entire neurological makeup. Addicts need more than just willpower to get sober. Convince them to get help now.
  3. Rehab won’t work if an addict has already failed it.Just because an addict has relapsed in the past does not mean treatment will not work. He or she simply has to try again.
  4. Addicts lack strong morals.Anyone can become an addict. People who are genetically predisposed to addiction are even more likely to become addicts themselves, regardless of the character they possess.
  5. Addicts will sever ties with those staging an intervention.It is difficult to predict an addict’s response to an intervention. Drug and alcohol abuse can make a person unstable, which is why it is always necessary to seek the help of a professional interventionist. Just because an addict gets upset, however, does not mean they will sever ties. They will, at some point, realize that their friends and family are only trying to help.
  6. Interventions should be staged when the addict is under the influence.

    This is never a good idea. When planning an intervention, all possible steps should be made to ensure that an addict is sober when confronted. A person who is under the influence may be very volatile and will not fully process what is being said to them.

  7. Interventions should be staged by friends and family only.

    A professional interventionist is a vital part of making sure the intervention is safe and effective. It can be dangerous and very counterproductive to attempt to intervene with an addict without professional help. Always contact a professional interventionist, who will help you devise a plan to make the intervention as productive and healthy as possible.