How To Do An Intervention?
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Many of you are wondering how to do an intervention.
We have laid it out in a simple 3 step process for you.
Phase 1: Contact a professional interventionist
Research shows that most often families, employers, loved ones who attempt to persuade the person of concern to get help fail. Addiction casts a wide net. Those closest to the person of concern get trapped in that net, and the consequences can be considerable.
It has been proven that hiring a professional interventionist is significantly helpful in orchestrating a circle of love and compassion around the person of concern.
What is the success rate of an Intervention?
Whole Families Intervention & Services has proven successful in 99% of its interventions.
In order to be successful in your intervention, It is critical to establish ground rules for the intervention, such as:
- No blaming
- No shaming
- No criticizing
- No yelling
Rather, the language of the intervention needs to be one of compassion, empathy, kindness and love.
The challenge is that, often, by the time families and friends commit to an intervention, they are emotionally, physically and financially spent. Anger, hurt and resentment can be pervasive among those caught in addiction’s web. Dealing with an addict’s lies, deceit, manipulation, secrets, broken promises can erode trust and thus, destroy relationships.
It takes much intention to put aside those grievances and come together as a united circle of love. It is this love and support that has proven most helpful in empowering a loved one to seek and find help.
Phase 2: Follow the Interventionist's lead in preparing for the intervention.
This may take several meetings with the group. We at Whole Families offer unlimited time to prepare for the intervention meeting.
Step 1: Choose your circle of support for your intervention
The people you choose to be in your intervention meeting are important. As the meeting is about helping your loved one seek and find treatment, each individual present must commit to the ground rules. If, for whatever reason, they aren’t capable of speaking with love and compassion, they need to recuse themselves from the process.
You want to choose those folks who love the person of concern and toward whom, your loved one has great affection. It is important that those in the intervention are cheerleaders for your loved one and someone your loved one respects.
Step 2: Sharing the family’s history with each other
A professional interventionist will seek to understand the history of your family and each member’s role in the family. At Whole Families Intervention & Services, we interview each member of the family to hear their perspective on the family unit and how they view their role in it. If friends, employers, teachers will be present in the intervention, we interview them, as well.
Once we learn about the history of the family and each person’s role in it, we gather the family together to share what we’ve learned and ask the family to participate in the discussion. This can be a healing time for the family as members may be hearing information that they’ve never heard prior. Secrets that some members have been protecting are often shared in these discussions.
Step 3: Assessing your loved one’s condition
We at Whole Families will convene a follow-up meeting for your family to discuss your loved one’s physical health, mental health, and current situation. We aim to obtain as much information as possible about your loved one. What does she/he enjoy doing? Does she/he love being outdoors – hiking, surfing, gardening? Or does she/he prefer reading, crafts, art, music? Is he/she a professional or working class? Does he/she identify as LGBTQ, cis, transgender, non-binary?
This information is important. Your professional interventionist will gather this information, along with financial perimeters, in order to select a few treatment options for your loved one. Your clear understanding of his/her circumstances and desires will help guide you and your family in determining where your loved one will receive treatment.
Step 4: Sharing the impact of your loved one’s choices on you and your family
Research shows that, on average, for every 1 addicted person, 25 people are affected. Addiction throws a wide net. Friends and family members can get caught the net. The disease affects each of us differently. Some of us get trapped into believing that if we just do _________ (fill in the blank) the person will get better. If we just say,” ____________” (fill in the blank), the person will choose to get help. In other words, we believe we have the capacity to save them from harming themselves further. Others of us feel angry, resentful, hurt by all the lies and broken promises, that we’ve stepped away. And some of us, swing back and forth from believing we can protect our loved one and giving up all hope.
At Whole Families Intervention & Services, we believe that sharing how the disease of addiction has - and is – affecting each of you is indispensable in helping you heal as an individual and as a family. In sharing your own experience, others often relate to your feelings and thoughts. In that relating, everyone feels less alone, isolated and/or secretive. The disease has less power to manipulate and deceive a group who knows its secrets. This honest, transparent sharing is the first step toward healing the whole family.
Step 5: Your interventionist will educate you and your family about the disease of addiction
The concept of alcoholism and other drug dependency as being a disease first surfaced early in the 19th century. In 1956, the American Medical Association (AMA) declared alcoholism an illness, and in 1987, the AMA and other medical organizations officially termed addiction a disease.
The National Institute of Drug Abuse (NIDA) defines addiction as “a chronic, relapsing brain disease that is characterized by compulsive drug seeking and use, despite harmful consequences.” (National Institute on Drug Abuse. The Science of Drug Abuse and Addiction: The Basics)
In the United States, 8–10% of people over the age of 12 are addicted to alcohol or other drugs. That’s approximately 22 million people. (Grant B, Saha TD, Ruan WJ. “Epidemiology of DSM-5 Drug Use Disorder Results From the National Epidemiologic Survey on Alcohol and Related Conditions–III.” The Journal of the American Medical Association, January 2016.)
While addiction is chronic, the good news is that it’s treatable. When a disease is chronic, it means it’s long-lasting. It can’t be cured, but it can be managed with treatment. Other chronic diseases are asthma, diabetes, and heart disease.
For many suffering with addiction, it can be important that treatment addresses any co-occurring neurological or psychological disorders that are known to drive your loved one to seek out mind-altering substances and behaviors in the first place.
We at Whole Families Intervention & Services know about the disease addiction. Each of our interventionists have been sober for 30+ years. They’ve seen the physical, mental and emotional consequences of the disease. They’ve witnessed those suffering from alcoholism, drug addiction, and eating disorders destroy their lives and the lives around them. They’ve seen families torn apart, businesses lost, and been to too many funerals.
At the same time, we’ve seen individuals regain their health, mend relationships and create the life they dreamed of having.
Helping individuals and families find freedom out from under addiction is our passion. We know it is possible for every single person and family.
Step 6: Prepare what you want to say to your loved one in the intervention
Here is where you will spend time contemplating what you want to say to your loved one and how you want to say it. Using language of love and compassion, you will tell your loved one how much you care, how concerned you are, and how much you believe in them.
Your loved one has forgotten his/her inner strength. You will work to express your words with honesty, love and encouragement.
Your interventionist will guide and support you in your language. This is critical. Often, by this point in your loved one’s life, he/she may be feeling despair yet pretending that all is well. Your empathy and kindness has the power to break through this denial so that your loved one can hear your concern.
Phase 3: The Meeting and After Care
At Whole Families Intervention & Services, we work meticulously to orchestrate the intervention with care and intention. You’ll be directed and guided on every aspect of the meeting. Your interventionist will be right there, convening the meeting, assuring that everyone is abiding by the ground rules.
Once your loved one agrees to go to the treatment facility that the family has chosen, we at Whole Families facilitate transportation to the treatment facility and oversee a safe and peaceful check-in.
During treatment, we are in touch, regularly, with the treatment facility, advocating for both your loved and your family. We are committed to supporting you and your family while your loved one remains in treatment, after graduation and into early recovery. Treatment is a first step. We believe that individuals and families flourish with recovery support in early sobriety. We offer recovery coaching to empower those in early recovery to develop sober life skills so that they can manifest the life they dream of having. We know it’s possible. We see miracles happen everyday.